Coping with Social Comparison in the Summer

By Jessy Weston, AMFT

Summer is a season often filled with social gatherings, vacations, and outdoor adventures. While this can be an exciting time, it can also trigger a feeling of being excluded. With social media feeds flooded with images of friends’ beach trips, concerts, and picturesque getaways, it's easy to feel like everyone else is having the time of their lives while you might be missing out. Here are some strategies to help you cope with social comparison and cultivate a healthier mindset during the summer months.

1. Limit Social Media Use

While social media platforms are great for staying connected, they can also create unrealistic expectations and comparisons. Try setting boundaries for your social media use:

● Designate specific times for checking social media rather than scrolling throughout the day.

● Take social media breaks by scheduling screen-free days or weekends.

● Unfollow or mute accounts that trigger negative feelings or comparisons.

2. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful antidote to social comparison. Focusing on what you have rather than what you lack can shift your perspective and increase your overall happiness. Here are some ways to practice gratitude:

● Keep a gratitude journal where you write down three things you’re grateful for each day.

● Share your gratitude with others by expressing appreciation to friends, family, or

coworkers.

● Reflect on positive experiences from your past summers and appreciate the unique

moments you’ve had.

3. Connect with Friends and Family

While social media can create a sense of connection, nothing beats real-life interactions. Strengthen your relationships with those around you:

● Plan get-togethers with friends and family, such as picnics, game nights, or potluck dinners.

● Reach out to reconnect with someone you haven’t spoken to in a while.

● Join local groups or clubs that align with your interests to meet new people and form new

connections.

4. Accept and Embrace Your Own Pace

Everyone’s journey is different, and it’s important to remember that your summer doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s to be fulfilling

● Set your own goals for the summer, whether that’s reading a certain number of books, learning a new skill, or simply relaxing and recharging.

● Celebrate small victories and acknowledge your achievements, no matter how minor they may seem.

● Be kind to yourself and recognize that it’s okay to have quieter, more restful periods.