How to Support Your Pregnant Partner: A Couples Therapist’s Perspective
/Pregnancy is a transformative journey, not just for the expecting parent but also for their partner. The physical, emotional, and mental changes that occur during this time can create new challenges and opportunities for couples to connect. As a couple’s therapist, I often see how intentional acts of support from the non-pregnant partner can strengthen the bond between partners and create a more positive pregnancy experience. Viewing the pregnancy as a shared effort, even though one person is technically growing the baby, is a simple but powerful reframe that serves to unite couples in the transition to parenthood.
Communication, as always, is key. Your pregnant partner is experiencing a whirlwind of hormonal changes, physical discomfort, and sometimes anxiety about the future. Open and honest conversations about how they’re feeling and what they need can make a world of difference. Don’t wait for your partner to ask for help—proactively check in with them, ask how you can assist, and listen attentively without jumping to fix things unless they ask. Small acts of acknowledgment, like thanking them for what their body is going through or affirming their strength, can make them feel seen and appreciated.
Additionally, take practical steps to lighten their load. Pregnancy often comes with fatigue, nausea, or other physical discomforts that make everyday tasks more challenging. Offer to take on more household chores, run errands, or prepare meals. Accompany them to medical appointments to show your involvement and support. Learning about pregnancy, labor, and postpartum care together can also build a sense of teamwork. Perhaps most importantly, make space for emotional connection. A kind word, a gentle touch, or just being present during moments of vulnerability can reinforce that you are in this together. Pregnancy is a shared journey, and when you show up as a compassionate and engaged partner, you lay the foundation for a stronger relationship and a thriving family.